Friday, August 26, 2005

Thanks

Thanks for the comments. I had to take the post down. It was getting a little too dangerous to leave up, and I ended up accidentally insulting someone I think of rather highly.

The older I get, the more I realize how much of a compromise life is. There is no perfect. If there were, we'd live in a communist utopia. There is no perfect. But there is good. I guess understanding that and making things better little by little, despite the imperfections is better than whipping yourself into a frenzy and dragging everyone down until they are as miserable as you are.

I am stuck with what I know. There is no changing that and there is no right or wrong thing for me to do because I'm not the one who did the wrong thing. Maybe I should take stock of the situation and become a better daughter, mother, wife, sister, friend. Maybe instead of ranting and getting upset I should look around and see if there is a way to relieve someone else's burden and find little ways to prevent them from making these collossal life-shattering mistakes. I try to be an example. I honestly want everyone to be as happy as I am, but I end up looking smug. And I hate that.

There really isn't a point to this, I'm pretty much just taking inventory. Maybe something funny will happen later.

14 comments:

Jay said...

Upon re-read of this post it starts to become rather profound. Especially the second and third paragraphs. I've definitely been guilty recently of "whipping [myself] into a frenzy and dragging everyone down..."

Jay

Anonymous said...

Not your fault, my mistake.
Have a great weekend, both of you two.
signed this time
Elliott
www.sparewhiteguy.com

noonie said...

meh

I miss all the fun while on holiday!

What post did I miss?

Brighton said...

Glad you have come to a conclusion on how to handle all of this.
Call to talk anytime you need to sweetie...

Cigarette Smoking Man from the X-Files said...

I guess I missed it too.

Michelle said...

Zelda, very thought-provoking and wise. I have run into that before as well... I want everyone to have a great relationship and love the place they are at in life. I guess maybe I can annoy with my peppiness, I try not to but I still think a smile and a positive word is worth far more than any other advice one could offer. Sometimes it's best to focus on what we can do for others to help institute change then to try to change things for people. Good luck with the situation and as I said before I'll keep you in my prayers!

Jenny said...

Late to the party as usual, I missed all the fun. Just kidding, what ever happen I hope it all works out for the best for you.

geewits said...

Wow, you said two big things that hit home to me. The whipping in a frenzy... line, because I'm the one they call. When people feel down they always call me. I guess I am an amateur perker upper. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a people pleaser. I just kinda shake some sense back into people. Also the line about being happy and you're afraid you look smug. Don't do that. Why is it a crime to be happy? No, seriously, think about that. Keep your Mom happy. I think you did everything right. I'm impressed with how you handled everything. Good luck with it all

AJ said...

Well I missed the post,
but whatever happened, hope everything turns out for the best

Gina said...

shucks I missed it too , oh well , guess what , you have just been tagged ..

Trashman said...

Did I miss something?

Angi said...

I'm just glad I'm not the only one who missed it...

Sorry I missed it, hope all is well now.

Anonymous said...

Hide the evidence and then claim the high road.
Perhaps you shou examine your motivations as close as you say you want to examine your actions.
You have been blowing up on and off the web for months, it can't be healthy.

Zelda said...

I would love to analyze this comment for a second. First of all, it's anonymous. Obviously a coward. Then note the self-righteous tone. Obviously someone with low self-esteem. And finally, note the subtle reference to knowing me in real life - an attempt at intimidation. Very passive aggressive. My suggestion would be that this person stop whacking off to fat chicks and maybe take a trip.