Friday, September 24, 2004

And Jethro is......

Asian! Vietnamese specifically. Six people got it right, and I'll give credit to anyone who said Pacific Islander. Racially it's pretty much the same. Silly, I know. Anyway, I figured I had better reveal it in a hurry since Jethro has his own blog now, and probably couldn't keep it a secret for too much longer. I have no idea why anyone guessed white. I wouldn't string you along and tell you we were interracial just to pull a stunt like that. Really!

Racially speaking, we are a pretty uncommon couple. You see a ton of white guy/asian girl couples, but very seldom the other way around. I think it is because most Asian guys are short. I was about the most open-minded person in the world, before I got married. My only shallow physical requirement was that whoever I dated had to be taller than me. That's it. Skinny, fat, ugly, grungy, it didn't matter as long as he was taller. Jeth is 5'11" and 175-180lbs. Not typical especially for Vietnamese. His dad barely comes up to my chin. But he has a cousin who is as tall as he is, and a girl cousin who is 5'9". Our eldest is very tall for her age as well. So must be some height genes in his family. Most other Asians think he's Chinese. I guess they are taller.

Anyway, being married to him is a trip. And I think the mixed race thing has been a blessing. I'm never bored. If it took me the rest of my life, I could never learn all the intricacies and intrigue of Vietnamese culture, so there is always new information for me.

Stereotypes naturally abound, and some of them are accurate. Such as, if you are getting your nails done, and you think the girls are talking about you, they are. Also, they have a secret plan to take over the world. After the Jews. JUST KIDDING!!! Sheesh. Living in the middle of the league of nations, makes it very hard to keep a politically correct tongue in my head (or hand on the keyboard).

Being married to me had had an effect on Jethro as well. Cracker is a hard culture to ignore. He used to be a liberal, or at least he had liberal leanings. I stifled that pretty quick. Now he is more conservative than I am. It's amusing.

The story of how they got here is incredibly cool and dramatic, but I'll save it for another post. Anyway, I'll post pictures soon, but first I have to find one where I don't look like a hag.

I have so much more to write about our whole situation, but I'll save that too.

I would also be glad to answer any questions. And I'll say again, as long as you aren't calling for our lynchings, I don't take offense to anything.

Thanks for playing.

10 comments:

Opaco said...

"opaco said...
i will say that he is....American Indian/Alaskan Native

what did i win?"

looks like i won a big fat nuthin'! damnit!

i have always thought that mixed race couples were either going to

A. not make it due to the differences in culture adding too much work to the mix

or

B. make it due to the differences in culture adding spice to the mix.

glad to hear you are in that B. class.

Zelda said...

Definitely B. I can't understand how you could be A unless you cared too much about what other people think.

Angi said...

I bet your kids are gorgeous!

I have one question, what did Jethro's parents think of you when they met you the first time?

Zelda said...

Fortunately for me, Jethro had dated a girl that they all disliked. I looked pretty good by comparison. :-) But his family has always been very nice to me. They are really sweet people and they love the girls to the point of insanity.

Johnnie Walker said...

Did you turn the poor lad into a redneck by naming him Jethro? :D

Zelda said...

Johnny - No, I turned him into a redneck by being a cracker. Actually, he grew in redneck hickville (Humble, Texas), so it kind of rubbed off on him.

Lady Charisse said...

I knew I was going out on a limb saying he was like me....there are sooo few of us in TX!!! i wann move back to OK!!! *sniff*


lol! Glad to hear y'all's marriage and life are great! I hope that one day EVERYONE can see how interracial marriages aren't so bad...


...oh, btw, z, your site has been banned by my firewall at work...something about "sleepingugly" is a reference or something to some porn site...or some such nonsense....

nita said...

on our street there are two mixed race couples. in one house the woman is caucasion and the man is asian and across the street from them the woman is asian and the man is caucasion! how funny is that?

Zelda said...

It isn't terribly uncommon anymore. You fall in love with who you fall in love with, and no one places that much emphasis on "culture" anymore - at least not enough to discriminate. But I haven't seen too many white female/asian male couples. They are still somewhat of a rarity, although one of the couples we hang out with are white female/1/2 black, 1/2korean male. He calls himself a "Blackorean," and he is actually quite handsome.

Johnny5 said...

Sorry I didn't get to play the game, but that's what I would have guessed anyway.

Oh, and as for political correctness, fuck it. I believe that humor is found in our differences, and celebrating those differences is what makes for unique relationships. Imagine everyone around you being just like you, it would be a shrink's dream.